We grieve any loss that causes a significant change to our lives. Grief is the intense emotional suffering we experience when there is a loss, while mourning is the expression of that grief. It is not uncommon for people to question how long grief will last. Since it can be a painful experience, we want to quickly get better. The goal is not to “get over” the loss, but rather to integrate it into our lives moving forward. Although there are no formulas which guarantee the resolution of grief, developing an understanding of the grief process can be helpful.
The experience of grief and the mourning process involves many changes in the life of the individual. These changes are the result of the primary loss. This may be a loss due to the death of a loved one, the demise of a marriage, relocation of a home due to job change/loss, military deployment, incarceration of a loved one or any significant loss that drastically alters one’s word. Secondary losses are a host of additional losses that are a consequence of our primary loss. Grieving our secondary losses is a normal and healthy aspect of adapting to the changes in our life and creating our ‘new normal’. Just as our grief is unique to us, so are the secondary losses we experience. Below is a list of common secondary losses experienced:
Loss of Family Structure: The family unit is forced to change due to a significant loss. Daily routines, behaviors and roles are adjusted. Family members adapt to new responsibilities or jobs around the house.
Loss of Support System: relating to friends, family members, acquaintances, co-workers and community members looks different. Sometimes others are unsure of how to interact and support those grieving. It’s not uncommon for those who have been there for us in the past, not able to support us as we mourn our loss. In addition, new relationships are strengthened as we discover those who can provide the support needed as we grieve.
Loss of Future Dreams: It is human nature to make plans and create hopes and desires for us and those we love. Some losses have the influence to make those plans, hopes and dreams cease. They can also limit our ability to resolve unfinished business. The future now is uncertain.
Loss of Self: We invest much of our identity in the roles we play and the relationships we nurture. The loss of and changes in these roles and relationships alter the way we look and feel about ourselves. It may have an influence on us to feel ‘not whole’. This tends to lead to feelings of inadequacy and lack of self-confidence.
This process takes much longer than expected or desired. Receiving support to assist in navigating the grief process can offer guidance in working through feelings and developing coping strategies. For over 25 years, Melissa Minkley has supported individuals, families, and communities as they navigate a life- altering diagnosis, end of life transition and grief. Her personal experience of loss has given Melissa deep insight into the impact grief has on individuals, families and friends. Reach out to her to schedule a session by calling or emailing her at: 262-751-3910 / [email protected]
The experience of grief and the mourning process involves many changes in the life of the individual. These changes are the result of the primary loss. This may be a loss due to the death of a loved one, the demise of a marriage, relocation of a home due to job change/loss, military deployment, incarceration of a loved one or any significant loss that drastically alters one’s word. Secondary losses are a host of additional losses that are a consequence of our primary loss. Grieving our secondary losses is a normal and healthy aspect of adapting to the changes in our life and creating our ‘new normal’. Just as our grief is unique to us, so are the secondary losses we experience. Below is a list of common secondary losses experienced:
Loss of Family Structure: The family unit is forced to change due to a significant loss. Daily routines, behaviors and roles are adjusted. Family members adapt to new responsibilities or jobs around the house.
Loss of Support System: relating to friends, family members, acquaintances, co-workers and community members looks different. Sometimes others are unsure of how to interact and support those grieving. It’s not uncommon for those who have been there for us in the past, not able to support us as we mourn our loss. In addition, new relationships are strengthened as we discover those who can provide the support needed as we grieve.
Loss of Future Dreams: It is human nature to make plans and create hopes and desires for us and those we love. Some losses have the influence to make those plans, hopes and dreams cease. They can also limit our ability to resolve unfinished business. The future now is uncertain.
Loss of Self: We invest much of our identity in the roles we play and the relationships we nurture. The loss of and changes in these roles and relationships alter the way we look and feel about ourselves. It may have an influence on us to feel ‘not whole’. This tends to lead to feelings of inadequacy and lack of self-confidence.
This process takes much longer than expected or desired. Receiving support to assist in navigating the grief process can offer guidance in working through feelings and developing coping strategies. For over 25 years, Melissa Minkley has supported individuals, families, and communities as they navigate a life- altering diagnosis, end of life transition and grief. Her personal experience of loss has given Melissa deep insight into the impact grief has on individuals, families and friends. Reach out to her to schedule a session by calling or emailing her at: 262-751-3910 / [email protected]
Life coaching has significantly gained awareness and popularity in recent years. There is a growing recognition of the benefits it offers for personal and professional development. Life coaching became a distinct profession in the United States in the 1980s. However, its origins can be traced back to earlier periods, including ancient philosophies. Life coaching emerged from a merging of physiological and psychological influences leveraging insights from human potential movement and the self-help industry. At 4 Rivers Center for Well Being, our life coach, Dana Triebold, offers these beneficial life coaching services.
But the question still stands, “What is a Life Coach?”
A life coach starts by increasing your overall awareness by tapping into your subconscious thoughts and feelings. Awareness is the greatest agent for change. Coaching is a solution-focused, action-oriented partnership between the life coach and the client to help them reach their full potential through action-based plans. A life coach helps individuals identify their core values, challenge their belief systems, evaluate what is and isn’t serving them. A life coach will challenge individuals to look at things differently, help them discover what they really want in life, support them with step-by-step action plans and hold them accountable.
The life coach stays open-minded and curious and allows the client to lead the sessions. The client has their own innate answers so the life coach holds space for the individual to discover these answers for themselves. Tools used include empowering questions, reflections, wheel of life, values assessment, SMART-P goals, providing feedback and evaluation to name a few.
What Does a Session Look Like?
*First, the life coach helps the client clearly define goals and dreams
*Establishes a mindset to set them up for success
*Asks questions to help the client make action steps towards achieving goals
*Provides accountability steps that the client can identify on their own to move in the right direction. The coach can then hold the client accountable.
Even though these steps sound simple, people find it hard to do without a coach.
When to Hire a Coach?
A life coach is a good choice if the individual is ready to make a decision, has a desire to level up, looking to take action and create results by learning to understand and trust themselves.
What Areas Do Life Coaches Address?
Life coaches address a wide range of areas in a person’s life such as taking individuals from where they are to where they want to be, improving confidence and eliminating negative thoughts, getting unstuck, setting goals to achieve one’s dreams, helping individuals overcome adversity and detours in life, improving decision making skills, and improved overall well being.
You can read about Dana on her profile here. Reach out to her with any questions or ask for a free discovery session by using the form on that page, or by phone or email.
Phone: 262-567-1839
E-mail: [email protected]
But the question still stands, “What is a Life Coach?”
A life coach starts by increasing your overall awareness by tapping into your subconscious thoughts and feelings. Awareness is the greatest agent for change. Coaching is a solution-focused, action-oriented partnership between the life coach and the client to help them reach their full potential through action-based plans. A life coach helps individuals identify their core values, challenge their belief systems, evaluate what is and isn’t serving them. A life coach will challenge individuals to look at things differently, help them discover what they really want in life, support them with step-by-step action plans and hold them accountable.
The life coach stays open-minded and curious and allows the client to lead the sessions. The client has their own innate answers so the life coach holds space for the individual to discover these answers for themselves. Tools used include empowering questions, reflections, wheel of life, values assessment, SMART-P goals, providing feedback and evaluation to name a few.
What Does a Session Look Like?
*First, the life coach helps the client clearly define goals and dreams
*Establishes a mindset to set them up for success
*Asks questions to help the client make action steps towards achieving goals
*Provides accountability steps that the client can identify on their own to move in the right direction. The coach can then hold the client accountable.
Even though these steps sound simple, people find it hard to do without a coach.
When to Hire a Coach?
A life coach is a good choice if the individual is ready to make a decision, has a desire to level up, looking to take action and create results by learning to understand and trust themselves.
What Areas Do Life Coaches Address?
Life coaches address a wide range of areas in a person’s life such as taking individuals from where they are to where they want to be, improving confidence and eliminating negative thoughts, getting unstuck, setting goals to achieve one’s dreams, helping individuals overcome adversity and detours in life, improving decision making skills, and improved overall well being.
You can read about Dana on her profile here. Reach out to her with any questions or ask for a free discovery session by using the form on that page, or by phone or email.
Phone: 262-567-1839
E-mail: [email protected]
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